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What I do think of the BLM protests as someone outside of the US

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I would like to give an opinion from one mildly affected by this issue mostly and from the perspective of what the experience seems to be from the blacks looking from outside the hot zone. I am a Nigerian, a black man of 23 and in my country, there's of course no racism since we are all of the same color.First of all, I will start with my country and the African bias in Africa by AfricansThe opposite seems to be the case in some sense. For people who are in corporate industries, you'd see that those who study in the white man's country have advantages in employment in the workplace.It's common for the government to overlook their own people to give huge contracts to foreign companies and people even if we have the same level of expertise in the country. So I would say we are faced with a different type of racism or prejudice.Sometimes I wonder if the colonial era in the country twisted our minds so much that we can't seem to just appreciate our own.I'm sure the …

13 ways to look smarter than you are

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I'd admit, 8/10 most of the time, I'm not the smartest person in the room. It's not easy keeping up with the other high functioning grey matters, but the benefits of being smart are hard to ignore. For one, you get to not be ignored. When you speak, people would listen and want to know what your opinion is. There's also the fact that you stand out from the crowd at events, you get privileges in the workplaces, schools and are easily accepted; I don't need to preach about the benefits of popularity.People give you this respect even when they don't know much about your life. You look smart, you seem important and you're treated with respect.What if I say I can tell you how to look smart, gain all the perks without having to sleep with textbooks every night, and being Einstein's prodigy. ( Don't worry, I'd tell how to be his prodigy later, lol )Like the saying goes in the movie Forrest Gump, "Smart is as smart does". You are smart if you…

What eating habits should I adopt| The concept of eating right

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I was thinking recently about what it means to eat right. Looking at an icon that died recently from colon cancer (Chadwick Boseman), I thought to myself, cancer has become a real scourge to the world, and one of the major causes is related to what we eat. This thought led me to think to myself if I really was putting the right stuff in my body. You see, most of what we eat, which we most times seem not to track goes beyond just causing terminal health issues like cancer, diabetes, etc, in the long run; its also linked to mood swings, digestive problems, how we look outwardly, aging and so on. So I did some research about 'everything eating', and I will share with you some of the secrets I discovered. Read on to discover healthy eating habits you should know for a much healthier approach to life.
What constitutes a healthy eating habit?So what really makes a healthy eating habit. I pondered this question a lot. If I am to start eating right what should I be focusing on?It turns…

Roots| Not knowing your native language in Nigeria

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I remember that day like it was yesterday. I was stressed out and just sat out in the veranda with the comfort of my dog just trying to relax. Then I heard this bang at the gate. With a frown, I got up to go check who was disturbing my blissful moment. 
Here comes this guy around his 60's. He said he had worked here some time ago and while he was still telling me why he came, out of the blue, he started conversing in my Igbo dialect. 
 I don't speak Igbo, so it was really nerve-rattling for me... It wasn't the first time but that never stopped the feelings of illegitimacy in some sense.
To cut the long story short, while he was trying not to embarrass me more by deflecting back to our dialect... He just blurted out this question. Are you not Okonkwo's son, why can't you speak... And before I could utter a word... He emphatically, with a tone of finality said- You've lost your Roots!
How did it happen?Back in the days, we used to speak in our native dialects without…

Being the man

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As far as you're under my roof, you'd do this and that... You're under my rule and so you can't do as you like.-- Dad
You're a man, you should be able to raise up that, pay for my meal, handle it, etc.
I just saw a snake at the backyard, go and kill it... You're a man ( like we  are sacrificial lambs😅)
I think the cutouts/wire is sparking ...I'm scared to go and check it out, be a man.
Why did you allow those robbers harass me, are they not men like you? 🙄 (Sista, please I like my life)
So so and so just bought a car, look at how his girlfriend looks...is he not a man like you?
Everywhere, every day we guys face so much pressure growing up. Society expects you to be strong and capable of fending for yourself and leading situations even from an early age. The expectations can get very overwhelming and make you seek short cuts and ways to be the man when the situation calls for it.
And It doesn't get easier with social media. 🤦🏽‍♂️
For me, expectations have b…

Going Home

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For months, I blamed the border restrictions for keeping me away from my home. It seemed like I was going to be having a dry spell in Portharcourt but it turned out amazingly great. I accomplished a lot; I bought a guitar, held amazing classes, started a blog, read great books, and had lots of company in the house, maybe even too much. 
On the 12th of July, I finally was coming back home. I boarded this sienna car by the side of the road as my preferred bus park was closed. The journey wasn't as smooth as I pictured because of this young pregnant lady and her husband who were both fat...making it hard to move around. To top it off, the driver didn't drop me at the preferred location like we discussed making me make an unnecessary stop with the tons of loads I had to carry along. But in the end, I got home safely and hopefully without the COVID-19 virus. 
I couldn't help but notice the humble attempts by Nigerians - hawkers and passersby - made to stay safe. But it was way of…

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